Counselling and community for women 'coming out' later in life.
LillSpace Becoming Circles
A place to breathe, a place to land, a place to unfold, and a place to be held while you figure things out.
Duration: 420 min over 6-Weeks
Format: virtual peer groups (max 6 participants)
Cost: $595.00 CAD
Group one: Coming Out 101 (Later in Life Identity Shifts)
01
Week
Orientation and Identity
Why identity emergence and transformation can happen later in life. What does knowing, performative peace, and authentic alignment of self look like?
90 Minutes
02
Week
Internal Landscape
How do internalized homophobia and heteronormativity make an impact on out identity and how do we then give ourselves permission to reclaim inner authority?
60 Minutes
03
Week
Disclosure and Relationships
How do co-existing truths exist? Together we will explore pacing and disclosure with care for others, self-protection, and honesty.
60 Minutes
Coming out later in life often encompasses conflict of responsibilities, complex grief and loss and an intense desire to discover your authentic self - all while facing the excitement and anxiety of finding community as a lesbian. This group offers connection and a place to be heard and understood. Welcome.
04
Week
Desire, Embodiment, and Sexuality
What are somatic cues for truth and queer awakening? Together we will explore how attraction can both shift and be denied, what you truly desire and how you know.
60 Minutes
05
Week
Practical Realities
Practical considerations when shifting identity and/or relationship structures - separation or staying in place, reducing isolation, building a queer community and establishing queer identity.
60 Minutes
06
Week
Integration and Affirmation
Reflections on what has shifted - what feels clearer, softer, or more possible? Exploration of next steps.
60 Minutes
Group two: Coming Out 101 (Gay in a Straight Relationship)
01
Week
Naming the Unspoken
Understanding why sexuality questions emerge inside straight relationships , and what it means - and doesn't.
90 Minutes
02
Week
Desire Indentity and Conditioning
Understanding the emotional weight of compulsory heterosexuality, heteronormativity. Together we will your somatic cues and internalized narratives.
60 Minutes
03
Week
Ethics, Honesty, and Safety
Understanding affairs, secrecy, self protection and shame while exploring identity misalignment. Together we will explore pacing and navigation of disclosure with care.
60 Minutes
Women who are questioning their sexuality while partnered in a long-term straight relationship often hold their knowing in silence. This unique process is layered with partner and family loyalty combined with intense grief and longing.
04
Week
Options Mapping
Understanding values based decision making and safety (spiritual, physical, psychological and emotional etc.) while exploring next steps without pressure.
60 Minutes
05
Week
Grief, Guilt, and Self-Compassion
Understanding guilt as a sign of care and practices for self compassion and emotional regulation.
60 Minutes
06
Week
Integration and Affirmation
Reflection on what has shifted - what feels clearer, softer, or more possible? Exploration of personalized clarity plans and next steps.
60 Minutes
Note: participants in this group may also consider participation in the 'coming out' becoming circle as well. While there may be some overlap in content the purpose of this circle is specifically to explore the additional layers of coming out later in life that come with the navigation within the context of a long term straight relationship.