
***This site is under construction. lill space will reopen January 2026. if you need to schedule an appointment, please contact renblain@gmail.com***
The Lill' Space
A becoming space of identity, truth, and transformation for 'later in life lesbians'.
About LILL' Space
Counselling and community for women 'coming out' later in life.
A safe space for 'later in life lesbians' to explore their identity and navigate transformation without judgement or pressure. If you have found your way to LILL' SPACE, you are likely holding a longing that has been alive inside of you for many years. Whether it is a whisper or a roar, TogetheR, we will find what peace looks like for you, when it is rooted in truth, alignment, and authenticity.

About you
Sexual orientation is deeply personal, complex, and sometimes messy. You do not have to be certain to explore.
Who LILL space is for
You are longing for connection, clarity, and a place to be seen, heard, and understood;
You think you might be gay, bisexual, or other but aren't sure;
You are seeking to better understanding of your longing for women;
You are exhausted from contorting yourself to meet the need of others;
You are grieving the impact of and rebelling against performative peace;
You are feeling untethered and disoriented;
You are in a straight relationship questioning your sexuality;
You want to explore a same sex connection and not sure where to start;
You are parenting and not sure how to come out to your children;
You need support coming out to friends and family;
You have suspected you are queer for years but haven't acted on it;
You want to come out as bi or gay and stay in your straight relationship;
You are seeking gentle support without pressure for decision or performance;
You are a late bloomer and a women becoming;
You are married to a man and have fallen in love with a woman;
You want to be intimate with a women for the first time and are feeling anxious;
You are a man whose female partner is coming out in your relationship;
You are a man whose female partner has left because they are gay;
You are grieving the straight relationship and life you left behind;
You are grieving a lifetime of ignoring your knowing;
You want to support a LILL person in your life and aren't sure how.
SERVICES AND SUPPORTS
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lill' group spaces
SMALL GROUP GUIDED VIRTUAL SESSIONS FOR WOMEN SEEKING CONNECTION AND SUPPORT WHILE NAVIGATING THEIR SEXUALITY
coming out
This group is about connection with other women who are also navigating later in life identity shifts and questions about their sexuality. We will talk about the emotional, relational and logistical aspects of coming out later in life.
* LILLSPACE group sessions may be combined depending on the needs and desires and #s of participants.
Mon & Wed 5:00 - 6:15 PM
gay in a straight relationship
This group is geared specifically toward women who are navigating their sexuality while in a straight relationship. We will talk about the ties that bind you and the grief, confusion, anguish, and longing that often co-exist in this space.
* LILLSPACE group sessions may be combined depending on the needs and desires and #s of participants.
Tu & Thu 5:00 - 6:15 PM

Get in touch
About me
I created LILL' Space because I felt compelled to honor and support the brave women who dare to embark on their journey awakening and alignment later in life.
When I was looking for support and connection at multiple points in my life, I couldn't find it and I didn't know where to look. Just being able to talk to someone who was living openly as a lesbian would have been so helpful - even better, someone who could relate to ALL what was happening for me.
If LILL' SPACE had existed then, my entire adult trajectory may have looked different, Please reach out if this resonates with you. I would be honored to walk along side you.
Ren

I am Registered (ACSW) Masters in Social Work (MSW) Counsellor who has spent my entire adult life working my way to alignment. And, while I don't ever remember overtly hiding my sexuality, I also had zero representation and it didn't even occur to me to live my life outside familiar hetero normative expectations. I spent all of my adult life identifying as bisexual, in 'straight' relationships, smattered with intermittent gay encounters and over a span of 30+ years.
I finally 'came out' fully late in life, and then, remained in my heterosexual marriage for nearly 5 more years. I tried but I went back for many reasons but mostly because it just felt too painful to leave. Eventually I left, because it was too painful to stay.
I am grateful to share that I survived the deep reckoning that comes with choosing truth over comfort.
There are many things that nudge or awaken your knowing over time and the choice to take action looks different for everyone. There is no right answer.
Reading Untamed by Glennon Doyle cracked something open in me that landed me on the bathroom floor in a flood of emotions that I had stuffed for decades. This was the beginning of what would be a painful catharsis, but one that pushed me hard into my knowing - something that felt like it was no longer a choice.
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