Counselling and community for women 'coming out' later in life.
LillSpace Peer Support Groups
A place to breathe, land, unfold, connect, and be held while you figure things out.
Cohorts run in 4 week cycles typically on Tuesday or Thursday evenings 630-8 PM but can flex according to the availability and demand of participants. Groups require a min of 4 participants to run
Duration: Four 90 minute virtual sessions
[+ optional wrap in-person dinner to meet your new 'Qmunity' peers]
Format: virtual peer groups (max 6 participants)
Cost: $395.00 CAD for Lillspace counselling clients or $595.00 CAD
Group one: Fashionably Late (navigating sexual identity)
01
Week
Heteronormativity, Orientation, and Identity
Why identity emergence and transformation can happen later in life. What does our knowing, performative peace and authentic alignment of self look like? Why do we feel regret?
90 Minutes
02
Week
Internal Landscape
A deeper dive on internalized homophobia. We explore how the microagressions against ourselves impact identity and discuss how we then give ourselves permission to reclaim our inner authority?
90 Minutes
Coming out later in life often encompasses conflict of responsibilities, complex grief and loss and an intense desire to discover your authentic self - all while facing the excitement and anxiety of finding community as a lesbian. This group offers connection and a place to be heard and understood. Welcome.
03
Week
Desire, Embodiment, and Sexuality
What are somatic cues for truth and queer awakening? Together we will explore how attraction can both shift and be denied, what you truly desire and how you know. We will dive into first queer relationships - caution, norms, fears, and joy.
90 Minutes
04
Week
Practical Realities and Grief
Practical considerations when shifting identity and/or relationship structures - divorce, disclosure, reducing isolation, establishing queer identity, building queer community and grief compexity.
90 Minutes
Contact Ren regarding availability and booking.
Group two: Scared Straight (gay in a straight relationship)
01
Week
Naming the Unspoken
Understanding why sexuality questions emerge inside straight relationships , and what it means - and doesn't. Diving into our knowing and how we can compartmentalize and ignore it for so long.
90 Minutes
02
Week
The Reckoning
Understanding the emotional weight of compulsory heterosexuality, heteronormativity. Together we will your somatic cues and internalized narratives and what happens when you can't ignore it anymore.
90 Minutes
Women who are questioning their sexuality while partnered in a long-term straight relationship often hold their knowing in silence. This unique process is layered with partner and family loyalty combined with intense grief and longing.
03
Week
Leaving/Options Mapping
Understanding values based decision making and safety (spiritual, physical, psychological and emotional etc.) while exploring next steps without pressure.
90 Minutes
04
Week
Grief, Guilt, and Self-Compassion
Understanding guilt as a sign of care and practices for self compassion and emotional regulation. What does it look like when you choose yourself and the power of cognitive dissonance.
90 Minutes
Contact Ren for availability and booking.
Note: participants in this group may also consider participation in the 'fashionably late group' as well. While there may be some overlap in content the purpose of this circle is specifically to explore the additional layers of coming out later in life that come with the navigation within the context of a long term straight relationship.