Counselling and community for women 'coming out' later in life.
about
A safe space for 'later in life lesbians' [Lill] to explore their identity and navigate transformation without judgement or pressure. If you have found your way to LillSpace, you are likely holding a longing that has been alive inside of you for many years. Whether it is a whisper or a roar, together we will find what peace looks like for you when it is rooted in truth, alignment, and authenticity.
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Sexual orientation is deeply personal, complex, and sometimes messy.
You do not have to be certain to explore.
LillSpace could be for you if...
EXPLORATION
You think you might be lesbian or bisexual but aren't sure; You have suspected you are queer for years but haven't acted on it; You are tired of ignoring your knowing and need to talk it out; You are seeking to better understand your longing for women; You are in a straight relationship questioning your sexuality.
You need support coming out to friends and family; You are parenting and not sure how to come out to your children; You came out but are grieving the life you left behind; You want to come out as bi or gay and stay in your straight relationship; You are married to a man and have fallen in love with a woman.
RELATIONSHIPS
You left your long term straight relationship and are feeling untethered and disoriented; You are grieving the impact of performative peace; You want to support a LILL person in your life and aren't sure how; You came out but are grieving the life you left behind.
GRIEF
CONNECTION
You want to connect with other late in life lesbians; You are seeking gentle support without pressure for decision; You are looking for a place to be seen, heard, and understood; You want to explore a same sex connection and are not sure where to start; You want to support a LILL person in your life and aren't sure how.
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services
Individual Counselling
Experience personalized one to one virtual (*in person can be accomodated in most cases) counselling sessions tailored to your specific needs and goals. Explore your identity, share your story, and set manageable goals that will lead you to finding peace and authenticity . Book at 15 min consult with Ren for free.
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Peer Group Support
Experience guided virtual small peer group sessions for women seeking connection, clarity and peer support while navigating their sexuality and life changes. These closed peer to peer groups are designed to protect emotional safety, honor the pace of your unfolding, and offer grounding and clarity that comes from shared experience.
LillSpace Peer Groups run in four week closed sessions.
me...
Ren {she/her}
I created LillSpace because I felt compelled to honor and support the brave women who dare to embark on a journey of awakening later in life and need a place to land when life cracks them open. Awakening rarely comes from one moment - it is a slow gathering of truths over time and the choice to take action looks different for everyone. There is no right answer OR perfect time. At one point during my second marriage, I landed on the bathroom floor in a flood of emotions that I had stuffed for decades. It was the beginning of what would be a painful catharsis, but one that pushed me hard into my knowing - something that felt like it was no longer a choice. I searched for support and connection, at multiple points in my life, and I couldn't find what I needed. Just being able to talk to someone living openly as a lesbian could have changed everything - someone who could relate to what was was happening for me. I am grateful to have survived the deep reckoning that comes with choosing truth over comfort and if LIllSpace had existed when I needed it, not only may have that journey been easier but my entire adult trajectory may have looked different.
Ren graduated with a Bachelor in Social Work in 1997 and Masters in Social Work 2007 from the University of Calgary and is a registered Social Worker with the Alberta College of Social Workers.
