LILL
SPACE
Counselling and community for women 'coming out' later in life
about
A safe space for 'later in life lesbians' [LILL] to explore their identity and navigate transformation without judgement or pressure. If you have found your way to LillSpace you are likely holding a longing that has been alive inside of you for many years. Whether it is a whisper or a roar, together we will find what peace looks like for you, when it is rooted in truth, alignment, and authenticity.
LillSpace is a welcoming space for all women across all ages, races, ethnicities, religions, gender expressions, and sexual identities. Whether you are queer or questioning, you belong here.
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Sexual orientation is deeply personal, complex, and sometimes messy. You do not have to be certain to explore.
You are longing for connection and clarity;
You are looking for a place to be seen, heard, and understood;
You think you might be lesbian or bisexual but aren't sure;
You are seeking to better understand your longing for women;
You are exhausted from contorting yourself to meet the need of others;
You are grieving the impact of performative peace;
You left a long term relationship and are feeling untethered and disoriented;
You are in a straight relationship questioning your sexuality;
You want to explore a same sex connection and are not sure where to start;
You are parenting and not sure how to come out to your children;
You need support coming out to friends and family;
You have suspected you are queer for years but haven't acted on it;
You want to come out as bi or gay and stay in your straight relationship;
You are seeking gentle support without pressure for decision;
You want to connect with other late in life lesbian bloomers;
You are married to a man and have fallen in love with a woman;
You came out but are grieving the life you left behind;
You are tired of ignoring your knowing and need to talk it out;
You want to support a LILL person in your life and aren't sure how;
You are looking for support and this website resonates with you.
you...
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services
Experience personalized one to one counselling sessions tailored to your specific needs and goals. Explore your identity, share your story, and set manageable goals that will lead you to finding peace and authenticity .
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Experience guided virtual small group sessions for women seeking connection and peer support while navigating their sexuality. Choose from one of two six week closed cohorts.
This cohort is about connection with other women who are also navigating later in life identity shifts and questions about their sexuality. We will talk about the emotional, relational and logistical aspects of coming out later in life.
Cohorts run in six week sessions. The Coming Out Cohort is offered Mondays from 10:00-11:00 AM and Tuesdays from 6:00 to 7:00PM
Coming Out
This cohort is geared specifically toward women who are navigating their sexuality while in a straight relationship. We will talk about the ties that bind you and the grief, confusion, anguish, and longing that often co-exist in this space.
Straight Relationships+
Cohorts run in six week sessions. The In a Straight Relationship Cohort is offered Wednesdays from 10:00-11:00 AM and Thursdays from 6:00 to 7:00PM
me...
Ren [she/her]
At one point during my second marriage, I landed on the bathroom floor in a flood of emotions that I had stuffed for decades. It was the beginning of what would be a painful catharsis, but one that pushed me hard into my knowing - something that felt like it was no longer a choice. I created LILLSPACE because I felt compelled to honor and support the brave women who dare to embark on a journey of awakening later in life and need a place to land when life cracks them open. Awakening rarely comes from one moment - it's a slow gathering of truths over time and the choice to take action looks different for everyone. There is no right answer OR perfect time. I searched for support and connection, at multiple points in my life, and I couldn't find what I needed. Just being able to talk to someone living openly as a lesbian could have changed everything - someone who could relate to what was was happening for me. I am grateful to have survived the deep reckoning that comes with choosing truth over comfort and if LILLSPACE had existed when I needed it, not only may have that journey been easier but my entire adult trajectory may have looked different.
I am a Harley rider and a Chihuahua (Lalo) mama who loves nature walks, twisty motorcycle rides, and all kinds of adventures. My highest values are peace, joy, and love - born from vulnerability, honesty, and authenticity. Please reach out if any of this resonates with you.. I would be honored to walk with you on your journey.
Ren